Thursday, December 7, 2017

Heart vs. Hustle


I love this subject and I must share my point of view on this HOT TOPIC.  It is always being questioned, can you have it all when it comes to your work?  I'm a hairstylist at heart so of course you know what my answer is going to be.  Of course you can.  You can have a incredible career doing the very thing you love and SUCCEED.

Here is the interesting thing about the topic, SUCCESS is completely relative.  What one would define as success another would find a absolute NIGHTMARE.  That is the measuring point of truth.  What you consider hard work might just be you hate what your doing. That's when you use the word HARD.  Other words come to mind like DRAINING, or EXHAUSTED.  In my humble opinion this means you are not being FILLED back up by your work.

There can be many causes of this unbalance, so don't be so quick to assume its your job, it might actually just be your clients, or your coworkers.  They just may not be in alignment with your vibe, I believe in this so much.  So before you have written off your career choice take these little thoughts into consideration.

Your co-workers can effect the love you have for your job, especially if they are unhappy.  You know inherently vibes are contagious.  This rule applies in all cases, all the time.  You don't have much control over this and it can for sure take a toll. This issue usually works itself out over time, hopefully.

Here is the main issue, the people your working for do not value your work.  This can be in service or a corporate environment.  I'm going to use service as a example because I'm a Stylist and Coach.  Having clients value what you have to offer is the single most important component to happiness at work.  If I have a client who doesn't value hair,  we instantly are not a match.  Obviously hair is very high on my list, ITS MY CAREER.  The client dreads the whole process and complains about the price the entire time.

THIS IS WHAT CREATES UNHAPPINESS AT WORK.  THIS IS WHAT I CONSIDER HUSTLE.  

The amazing thing is I realized in my career I didn't have to work with those people anymore, I could have clients who loved getting their hair done and know it was worth every penny.  We are in alignment with each other.  This creates happiness at work.  It is what I consider heart centered business because everyone wins.  You leave at the end of the day in balance with what is given and appreciation what is received, on both ends.

HEART IS A ACT OF SERVICE COMING FROM A PLACE OF LOVE, IT STILL REQUIRES A ENERGY EXCHANGE ALSO KNOW AS MONEY

When your working with people who are in alignment with you this is all understood and it creates a wonderful career.  I have experienced this level of success in my business so I know this can be done.  If your in service you know immediately when someone VALUES your work and NEEDS what you have to offer.  We also can not talk people into this, your either aligned or your not.  Trust your gut. Your instincts have all your answers, in all areas of your life.


Sunday, December 3, 2017

Maybe Your Bored AF




The single most valuable investment I have made in my life has been for my health and fitness journey.  In this post I'm going to share with you why the thousands of dollars I have spent has been worth every penny.  January is approaching and everyone is thinking about their yearly investment for their health and fitness.  Im going to break down some of the costs of my journey and share with you how I have invested in my journey and how it has paid off 10 fold.

Trust me when I say I have spent thousands, and it has grown me into the women I came here to be. You can't put a price on that.  I remember when I was struggling to stay invested in my health and fitness journey, I kept starting and quitting.  I knew I had to change my approach because nothing was sticking.  I had to quit being a cheap ass. 100. LOL.  Honestly being cheap is boring AF.

I had to up the stakes so I would stay in the game. I knew my personality and honestly I was bored.  So I decided to start playing bigger.  I wanted to invest more so I wouldn't back out so easy. So I wouldn't get bored.  Lets face it, when we have some coin down we get shit done.

I decided to look into actually teaching the class, instead of just attending them.  I looked into the costs and the trainings are expensive.  I was scared as hell, because if I went to the trainings I knew I would follow through. I knew if INVESTED I would do it.  I'm not going to sugar coat and say I wasn't freaked out, but these tactics changed my life.  Not only did they change my life, they gave me back my drive.  These challenges light my fire.  They fuel my personality.

Have you ever self reflected and just realized your bored AF.  I'm so passionate about lining up your personality.  Up your stakes.  Get your DRIVE back.  Do something scary.  INVEST IN YOURSELF. I went on to get certified in 3 different programs and I was about to work on my fourth right before we moved. They were expensive trainings that all included monthly fees.  Lets just say, it kept me in the game.

WHY DO ALL THIS?

To keep me from being stagnant.  Like I mentioned before I get bored if I'm not challenged.  I think a lot of people are like this.  Honestly most people are bored out of their minds. Find something that scares you and invest and I promise your drive will return.

Coaching came into my life this last year as well and its been a investment as well.  It keeps me growing and once again it ups my stakes in myself.  It keeps my fire lit.  It has me doing more new things.  Meeting new people and keeping me out of my comfort zone.  All of this DRIVES me and keeps me pursuing a higher version of myself.  Trust me I'm not looking for perfection, I'm type B AF.  I love the chase and I love the game.  That's all it is.  It gives me a fire that 90 percent of the population is searching for.

Sunday, November 26, 2017

Making a HEART based DECISION



We all go through different seasons in our lives.  Some seasons call for changes, and some times we just coast on a wave.  I know when I have debated a change in my career or a relationship, I have had to really soul search.  I wanted to share a couple tricks I have learned along the way to help me decide if Im in my head or my heart.

I got the best advise right before I was getting ready to start my own business as a stylist, I was of course very nervous about my new venture and was looking for a higher perspective.  I was so nervous about investing in myself and my future and I was really looking for some words of wisdom to keep me from backing out and keep me moving forward.

Of course I went to the holy grail of information YouTube University and went through several videos on how you know for sure you should start your own business.  I came across a video that described a excersize to help decide if it was a INTUITIVE choice...

Take your new venture and think about the possibilities, how do you feel? 

Take your current situation that your considering shifting away from, how do you feel?

She went on to share that based on your feelings you can come up with a intuitive decision.  If you feel RESTRICTION that means its not the best choice for you.  If you feel EXPANSION it's whats on your heart.

It's a fine line not to confuse being anxious or scared to make a big choice with it not being your next big move.  Change is not for the faint hearted no matter how pumped you are for your new horizons.  I make the choice based on if I want to stay the same.  I gravitate towards no.  I want to learn and grow and expand my life and my skills.

When I started the salon, I went through so many emotions. There were days I was so excited and there were days that I was so scared.  Honestly it was all meant to be, every choice I made was from the heart.  It was to EXPAND my life and my horizons, and guess what?  It all worked out, and then some.

I know it can be scary to make a heart based decision, but it is life altering.  Its really is the highest form of putting yourself on the top of the list. When we run our businesses from that place, we can GIVE from the most beautiful space.

Next week I will be sharing my heart based decision on my transition over to the Coaching Industry.  I will be sharing some intimate details of how I made the choice, and what signs came up for me.  If you ever have questions about the Coaching Industry please don't hesitate to ask me, its a passion for me to share.  Have a intuitive week babes...





Sunday, November 19, 2017

Creating Space For Yourself On Social Media



This last year has been such a whirl wind.  For many of you following my story know me and my family went through a huge move this summer. I was running my own business in my salon suite and learning the next steps for my online coaching career. I had also just gave birth to my second baby. Lets just say lots going on.

I knew Coaching came into my life for a purpose I just didn't know how big of a role that it was going to play in my future. I had lots of doubts about the industry which most people do. So I took several weeks to really research the Industry and see if it was worth my most precious asset, my time.

I had several life conflicts when I was in the salon, most of the inner conflicts I was having involved growing my business further and at what expense it would cost my family.  My husbands career is very demanding, so my job has to be flexible, and hairstylists hours are not your traditional 9-5.

Me and Troy also knew we wanted more children so time was a big issue. These problems can all be solved by being creative which we always made things work. The point is I had problems I needed solved. Being out of TIME, wanting to be home with my children, and still having a INTENSE desire to be in BUSINESS.

I am incredibly entrepreneurial and building Brandi Inc. has been on my mind since I was a little girl. Its in my blood.  When I seen the opportunity in the online space I spent more time researching if their was a need in the market for my vision.  There are other women just like me who see this, and I want to work with them.

I had to do lots of soul searching the first year I was creating and crafting what I had to offer as a coach, and Im not your average coach. I absolutly aligned myself with products that helped in my physical transformation but that is a small piece of the puzzle and I hope to align myself with other big picture thinkers.

Being a big picture thinker is a gift that I nurture in myself, I know it is rare and I work hard to protect it.  I hold strong beliefs in myself and the people I work closely with, and I expect the same from them. There is no room for people in your life who plant seeds of doubt,  you have to have a strong connection to who you are and what you have to offer as a person.

Coaching is a incredible industry and its my mission to share that with women who are like me.  They have some holes in their life that this opportunity could fill. Its not for everyone, you must have a strong vision and a deep belief in yourself.  This has potential to open doors that you have seen for yourself but you didn't know how exactly to get there.

I run monthly Coaching workshops to help people get started in sharing their story.  You can find more information about my monthly groups on my business page on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/GlamQueen44/ and/or send me a message for a application to see if this is for you.

Monday, June 26, 2017

10 things only a Mother of Boys can Understand


1. The boys section of clothing is tiny and sad...you look over at the girls section annoyed and envying the cute selection.

2. Rough housing is a solid form of affection.

3. Fences, trees, and hiking trails are all considered adventurous places to use the restroom.

4. You must speak in scary tones to get your point across and they still ask if your joking.

5. You must go scrub every restroom in the house before guests arrive.

6. Aggression is a love language.

7. They are starving every hour on the hour. Legit starving.

8. Daycare calls...he was being to physical.

9. His Father is his hero.

10. Boys are obsessed with their Mothers. Moms are the apple of their eye. 

Wednesday, June 7, 2017

This spring my husband Troy Sharp came to me and said that he may be up for a position that will bring us closer to Nebraska.
When me and Troy Sharp first Moved to St. Joe we would make weekend trips back to Omaha. He would measure how close we could get to Omaha and him still be able to work for KCP&L. 10 years later he got that job!!!!!!
Part of his career brought us to Platte City and of course my career blossomed here. We have had a incredible life chapter in Platte City.
I hit major career milestones and bloomed as a lady of business. I moved into my salon suite 2 years ago June 14th. It's been such a beautiful experience! I have been so blessed by my business! I have grown so much professionally!!!!
These last 2 years I have grown so much in my suite! My clients and I have cherished this little #glameroom! I closed the doors to my suite last weekend.
Hairstylist have super powers! The beautiful thing about our industry is your always in demand!!!
I knew with everything I have learned my success is not based on geography!!! Everything that is put on my path is for a greater purpose!!! 
Every time we have moved our lives have improved! We have always been willing to change and grow as a family!
Of course we encounter growing pains...starting over again comes with lots of stress! This journey is not for the faint hearted.😉
Me and my family are still in the beginning stages of transition and could use some Irish Blessings sent our way for our next chapter! 
Thank you again to my wonderful clients for making my suite experience so memorable!!!! This little room was a little slice of heaven!! 

Mom of Boys

I was at the pool today with my crew laughing with another mom about being a boy Mom!!!
She heard me getting after my 6 year old for jumping in a area he couldn't touch after I repeatedly told him the boundaries!!!🙃
When I left I said to her...you get it...your a Mom to boys!!!😉
I speak very firm to my 6 year old because he is always testing my limits!!!! Always!!!! 🙃I can handle this crew!!! I always joke with my girlfriends...I was made to be a boy Mom because I can take all that comes with it!!!